How my passion developed
My passion for my work in therapy comes from a place of personal and professional growth through my own healing journey.
I was raised in a culture where emphasis is placed on keeping feelings to ourselves, which did not encourage the development of emotional awareness or effectively and appropriately communicating our emotions. Throughout my teen and early adult life, I struggled to find my identity, had low sense of self-worth, low self-esteem and truly did not feel comfortable in my own skin. As a result, I spent much of my university days trying to fit in with groups of friends, got caught up with people pleasing and constantly seeking approval from others. This led me to spending a lot of time doubting myself, worrying and being preoccupied with my relationships with people. It was mentally and emotionally exhausting.
This went on for most of my adult life until I experienced a deep personal loss, which now looking back has been a blessing in disguise.
Through that loss, it forced me to turn inward and do that deep work with myself. Over time it allowed me to gain new perspective on myself and on life.
It helped me to be more compassionate with myself and ultimately helped me develop my self-confidence. In time, I became less concerned with what others thought of me and started to re-build my relationship back up with myself.
I now realize the only approval I ever needed was my own.
Because of that loss, it was a catalyst for my healing journey which allowed me to cultivate many moments of self-reflection and ongoing accountability with myself.
Majority of the work with myself took place with holding space for my emotions and learning to sit and tolerate difficult feelings, which allowed for greater wisdom and clarity through my pain and helped me move forward and focus on my own self-growth.